[primamaria04]

I have been "hanging out" with this girl for about a month now. We went to the same high school but have only recently gotten to know each other better. We would be dating but we both decided neither of us really wanted to be in a "relationship", I'm busy with work and school and she has this problem. She's a sex addict, so relationships have not worked out well for her in the past. She doesn't want to "hurt me" because I'm a nice guy. So the other night we were hanging out kind of playing around and all the sudden she is all over me wanting to have sex. Of coarse my two heads are fighting whether or not to do it. I want to have sex with her but the complications of us having sex is just a little much right now. So in the end I turned her down. Now I'm wondering if I made the right decision and in the future what should I do about sex? If I didn't really like her and could see us in a relationship in the future I would have second guessed myself. Any insight?
Excuse me, I wouldn't have second guessed myself.

[joby10095]

You made the right choice. I think the important question is is she doing anything about her addiction? Meetings, therapy, anything to help her modify her behavior. If she's not, a relationship will never have a chance of working, no matter how much you wish it would. For the time being I suggest not hanging out alone in private. Take away that temptation.

[arlette p]

if u r not int rested and saying that the other one is sex addict is not good. i think that the other partner is more expressive than u and that's it. i think u should Analise Ur feelings for her and then proceed in the relation

[Bravo Sierra]

Well if you think you'd feel attached to her after having slept with her, then I think you made the right decision by turning her down, because as a "sex addict," she'll most likely be sleeping around with other guys. If you think you can have a completely platonic relationship with her and can handle sex with no strings attached, then go for it. Sounds cliche, but the answer is in your heart!

[Tegan]

Hi,
It is difficult to be in a long relationship with sex addict. If you are not a sex addict and your partner is sex addict. She always wants to do sex and it may ambries you and the relationship does not work.