[Renee B]

He has a real nerve because I was the one who brought him here (UK) in the first place. I am starting to think he only married me so he could settle here and get his residency.

I met him when he was here on holiday in 1997 (I was 16 and he 24) and we married a year later.

He got his right to stay years ago but stayed married to me. I was a virgin when I met him, and he remains the only guy I've slept with.

He has always wanted sex much, much more than me, but I have tried to give him as much as I can. When I am on my period, he insists on oral.

I found out last year that he had a mistress, I assumed this was purely sexual but to my absolute horror, he admitted they only had sex sometimes, and it was mostly emotional, and that he'd loved her!

However, he swore blind he now hated her and we rebuilt our lives, changing all our numbers.

I then got an email from the ex mistress to say he was still chasing her for sex, she'd said no, so he sent her a hate-filled email detailing that he had "many, many sex offers and none of them were demanding" as was his mistress (who wanted a relationship, not to be a mistress). She forwarded this email to me, and indeed in it, he told her he only wanted her for sex this time round, and that he had other willing women who kept their mouths closed and legs open.

I still stayed with him, but this year I realized I could not get over the original mistress, and left him.

I have since read his emails (I know his password), and he tells anyone who listens (his friends and cousins) how much he "hates" the original mistress for "wrecking" his life, but that he is seeing a LOT of women for casual sex - in OUR home!! (I left to stay with my mum, and he stayed in the marital home, which we've agreed to sell). Apparently he is having parties and all sorts of things are going on. I never guessed he was like this during our marriage.

Why has he become such a whore? Did I hold him back all these years?

[Tara Fabulous]

Because you were 16 and stupid when he hooked you in.

[natalie]

He has become a whore because apparently you wasn't satisfying his needs. See you should have found out about his sexual needs before you even married him.
If he is not going to stop having sex with other females and work on his addiction and if your not gonna give it to him then you should get him to give you the divorce papers.
He probably having parties cause hes hurt that you left him.

[Sandie R]

Well you were a child when he got his claw into you so give yourself a break. There are woman with years and years of experience who fall for the same kind of jerk as you did. So stop reading his emails and move on. Your lucky he did not give you a STD. Good luck to you and I hope you take him for everything in the divorce.

[bambis_revenge]

dint blame yourself its not your fault he is a "sex addict" he sounds like a manipulating abusive type of person to me, so he probably thinks he can get away with it because he feels he can control you to a certain point so can spin a story and you will forgive him, a guy like that wont change the chase of getting to sleep with other women especially if he refers to "mouth shut legs open" type of mentality is not the sort of person you want to be with, you deserve better than this guy betraying you constantly as soon as the chance arrives, its a good thing you left dint let him sweet talk his way out of this as i would put down any sum of money to guarantee that if you stay with him he will keep doing this

[lmmmrw1]

Stop blaming yourself in any way. This man is an absolute pig. He has used you,
he is a cheat and a liar and he has no regard for you. He took advantage of the age gap and your naivety.
Get a lawyer and make sure you screw every cent out of him in a divorce.

All the best

[J Bradley]

I personally don't think we should categorize sex addict like it's some medical condition. Hell, everybody is a sex addict. Everybody likes good sex. Basically, your husband is a serial cheater and you need to divorce him and let him go about his merry way and spread his STDs elsewhere. Don't fret about the fact that he may have used you to stay in the states. It's over and done and you may never get the truth because he's clearly a liar.

[malcr22]

She did you a favor sending you that email, only in the way that you can see how he views women (with legs open). He was angry with her for not agreeing to his demands for a sex only relationship. She wanted a relationship (though its not right because he was married) and he was angry because he uses women and doesn't want to compromise at all. He didn't care that you weren't able to have sex as long as he was able to have sex. If you can focus on the logic of the situation instead of the emotion (hard to do I know!) you will see that he is just selfish, not a sex addict and you are so much better off without him. Hire a good attorney.

[Hey You!]

you really are silly to marry a forgone,he used you good and proper..and even more stupid to leave the home .you should b kicking him out and back to his country..get your act together pack his things an leave them outside the door..he can go get a job on the red light zones with his other whore friends

[more_evil_then_santa]

Let him escort you Thur the his world of sexual extremes!
you will probably love it!
go to parties with him!
give it a chance, before you throw it away!