[ablair67]

My husband is a Cyb sex addict and recently he is starting to look for real sex with women in our area, Boaz Alabama..I just cough him with several communications with people...I want to leave him, but for the sake of our kids should I stay? we have been together for 12 years, 2 kids. He sis he will stop and wants to go to therapy, should I believe him?
I need professional help and comments from people with the same type of situation...what did you do? Did you saved your marriage? should I save mine? He is very addicted to this.
Please help me. What are the odds if him falling again into this pattern?
the problem is that he doesn't do it at home but at the family bus sines and behind my back. I suspect he gets out of work to have these encounters with people and he depends in the computer to work on line.
I don't know how to answer to you all, but thank you for all you comments, I will take you all in consideration about this problem. you have no idea how your answers are helping me. thank you. i will keep reading on.

[garisonc]

Turn off the Internet and tell him it won't get turned back on until after he's received help for his little problem.

[alex c]

You say you are married and he acts this way and you are asking if you should stay for the sake of your children. Everything is wrong with this question, since when did you life get set on the back burner, you and your children deserve better, let him have his fantasy and leave. You are being cheated out of a good life with someone normal.

[Melissa L]

Part of the answer will be coming to an understanding of why he is doing it. If its due to dissatisfaction in the marriage, then you probably should go to couples counseling. If he's bored due to losing his job or other things then maybe him going to counseling alone would be the answer.

The important part of ever saying "should I stay for the sake of the kids" is to remember that the kids aren't as dumb or blind as you think. By staying for their sake you teach them that what dad is doing is right, and that what you are doing is the way a woman should act. Keep that in mind always, because kids whether intentionally or not tend to emulate their parents relationship.

[foyes12]

He is not an addict. He's just horny all the time. I would say this best thing to do would be to just go ahead and divorce him and let him have his freedom to have any woman he wants any time he wants. He is only telling you that he will go to therapy as a temporary measure to shut you up. He is only going to cause you more heartache and pain. Do you want to continue living like that.

[wingshooter08]

It infuriates me when men use the 'addict' excuse for the fact that they just don't know how to keep it in their pants. He's not an addict, honey. He just doesn't love or respect you enough to be loyal to you. If that's something you want to live the rest of your life with, then that's your call.

[Bunny]

I cannot believe this question of yours. What ever happen in giving the other spouse space, freedom and room to breath on his own personal time? What ever happen to trust?

[Paxico Trader]

caught my hubby on PC condoms in his wallet,panties in my house...he left and I did want to try to save the marriage for the kids...He didn't! I say try therapy and then if you still feel you can TRUST after that then stay together...if there is any doughty in your mind that you wont trust after that...then you need to move on...Its hard with kids trust me I know..Only you will know whats right for you, your kids and your marriage

[pharmacy b]

You should stay with your husband on keeping your children's future in your mind. And he may be undergo some therapy to stop excessive Internet usage. Cognitive behavioral therapy gives him step by step ways to stop Internet usage. Marriage counsel ling can also help to re-correct your partner. Encourage him in doing some social activities. You should live with him for your children's future..

[carvel]

Send him to the same place that Tiger Woods is at, maybe they can be roommates there.