[shane]

my boyfriend was addicted to oxycontin 2 years ago and stopped on his own. he was in irac for the last 7 months and when he came home started taking the pills again.. he stopped over a week ago and is now starting rehab next week.my problem is i was lied to for the last 2 months and i am very hurt, i dont do drugs and never have so i really dont know how to handle this. i know that he truely does want to stop and he is willing to go through th pain. but i feel like i cant trust him be cause when he is using he is very good at hiding it. i want him to be healthy and clean but idk how to know if he will be when he comes home from rehab. and he told me the worst thing i can do is to nag him but i feel like my trust for him has been broken so i think my concern as to where is is and what he is doing is not near as much as what he has put me through. my main concern is that he stays clean. so does anyone know how to talk to him and how to go about helping him get past this?

[i_sparkle_too]

Just go to him and tell him, that if he keeps doing this that your going to break up, or whatever, tell him that you would rather him tell then for him to keep it a secret, and if he said he will go through the pain help him, watch what he does, tell him not to take those, just things like that, don't worry if he has the nerve to hide if from you you have the nerve to tell him no

[Justin M]

Opiates are very addictive. They are one of the hardest things to stop. It can be as hard as heroin to stop. You should talk to him one on one and explain this and how it is making you feel. Him having this without a scripit could mean over a year in prison. I think some counseling with an addiction medicine specialist would work and they could get him on the correct treatment path

[cassandra]

If you want to understand what he is going through watch the Movie Train Spotting.Seeing a loved one go through addiction is not easy.I have watched my sister destroy her life for the past three years with opiates.She went into rehab, stopped then found out she had stage 4 Cancer.When you go through something traumatic the temptation to return to these things is going to come back. He will be dealing with thisthe rest of his life.You said your boyfriend went to Iraq. He probably saw some messed up stuff there. It wasn't easy I am sure.He needs to stay strong, and stay away frompeople who are into this kind of stuff.He needs you to be there and to love himand to do the best you can to understand.If you give up on him, then he may also give up on himself, and that is the very worst thing that can happen.He needs to know your there for him andthat you love him.He absolutely needs rehab to get through thisthough. Trying to stop cold turkey withouta doctors help could kill him.

[Blossom]

You can't help him on your own. Wait till he gets out of rehab. If you truly love him, give him a chance to get better. If he starts it again, then get away from him for good. I believe in giving someone a chance, but if he screws with you, remember there are plenty of fish in the sea, and you don't need the problems that come with an addict.

[slamdunc5]

Shane after reading your post I feel like u are being a little self centered. I mean your boyfriend is trying to clean up his life and u make it about u. I m a rcovering addict myself and believe me your boyfriend lied to cause he had a drug problem. U need to stop having a pitty party and be there for your man. I guarantee he is experiencing a lot harder times then u.