[ol'hippy girl]

She has been in and out of rehab, then to out-patient suboxene treatment centers. She has been told by the centers AND by us that she needs to attend meetings, and stay away from the people who are bad influences, but she wont. We want to help her- but we don't have the money to keep her in Dr. appts. ANd Suboxene- when she won't help herself. What should we do? And we cannot afford another rehab- the last one emptied our bank account.- $25,000!She is 19 1/2, and has been using hard drugs for 2 yearsShe has also stolen from us, pawned our stuff, and forged checks

[Dearsombody]

you should threaten to take away every thing that really matters to her like if she lives with you, or if you pay for things, like drugs.. and if she doesnt start going to meetings and whatever else you want her to do, you have to take control of her, and actually do it.

[Whispet B]

Depending on the level of harshness you feel like imposing- you could call the cops while you know she's using, and they could take her to jail. That would be one lesson which would probably lead to mandatory 12 step program, and if not jail time. Or it could just land her in jail, but she would still benefit from less drugs in jail.I'm sure there are some free programs she can attend. You should find out from the centers.

[Eraserhead]

You have to get tough and just draw the line for her. You have to tell her that if she keeps doing drugs, you cannot and will not stick around to watch her destroy herself, then stop helping her. Stop giving her money or time for anything but treatment. You don't want to hear from her unless it's about treatment.I'm a mom, so I know how hard this is. But i'm also a former addict to these pills (and many others) for over 10 years, and the only thing that made me go clean was when my family'washed their hands'of me. I realized then that things had to change. I didn't have enough money for rehab, so I had to do it on my own.If I did it after 10 yrs of addiction (I mean, pain pills, xanax, anything narcotic I could get. I was shooting them up too) she can too. She just needs you to draw the line for her. Make her hit bottom before she hits it herself. A lot of'bottoms'are death.Email me and I will tell you all I know if you wish.

[blackberetonawhitegirl]

Trying to help someone who refuses to help themselves is frustrating and expensive, but ultimately, if she's not willing to make a change in her life for the better, there is nothing you can do to make her. She needs to want to get better- you can't do it for her. Explain to her that she is hurting herself and those around her that love her but that you cannot support her if she isn't going to help herself. Its terrible and as a parent I know you never want to cut a child off but if their choices begin to affect your mental health and your finances, you need to serious decide which is better: letting your child learn to fend for herself or going down in flames with her? For some people, hitting rock bottom is the only wakeup call. Good luck.