[portraitoftracy222]

Im at my wits end with my daughter, she is addicted to oxycontin and pain pills, and will not stop. She has ruined our family financially and mentally.... Some people tell me to cut her off and dont speak to her till she comes to me for help. Is this normal advice please help i need it thanx

[Mariah W]

it's normal advice and it's good advice. As long as you give your daughter money or a place to stay you are enableing her in her addiction. A&E has the show called Intervention....watch a couple episodes.

[BIGGNARLYONES]

As a recovered alcoholic for over 14 1/2 yrs I agree that you need to hold her accountable for her actions. Give her the option of treatment or the door. If she doesn't get help for this she will die before her time. Then you will be one of those parents who carries the burden of guilt that you didn't do anything to help her. It's not your fault.You have my sympathy and I'll pray for your daughter and the rest of you.

[dlmrgnk]

Do NOT support her in her habit. Do not make excuses for her and DO go to Al Anon and learn how you are contributing to her disease.

[James O]

forget all that. Dont ignore her. That would be bad parenting. The oxycotton is a narcotic and can NOT be cut off cold. She needs to be admitted to a rehab center. That is, unfortunately, the only way. You're not talking about coke or weed, you're talking about oxycotton. PLease trust me on this. I have alot of insight on this. Rehab is the ONLY way. If you give her the option to get help or leave, she will leave. I dont care who it is and I dont have to know her personality to say this. She will refuse help. Admit her into a controlled rehab center. If you cant afford it, call the cops on her and the court will send her. Its hard, i know, but its always better to be judged by 12 than carried by 6.

[rosa_giffin]

you love her? help her call someone who can get her the help she needs.Just do it!

[abbie72003]

it's very normal advice. Tell her she needs to stop and get some help or you will cut all ties with her. It's not going to be easy, but it's going to be even harder for you and your family to watch her continuously go in a downward spiral. You are only making her life easier right now!

[xkayleex018]

nope and the reason I know that is because im a 17 year old girl without a mother because she is a drug addict ..yep ..I have went my whole life without her and watched her get worse on the inside and out and yes it breaks my heart knowing that she is my mother , me and my gran have turned our back on her many times after trying to support her but the drugs have just got a grip on her , she has stole from me , lied to me and even told me she walks the streets doing you know what just so shes only hurting herself and not her family but she feels like dirt , but deep inside i know its the drugs and not the real her because i know shes a loving and fun person and If i turn my back on her ..one day it may get so bad that I will lose her for good and I will live with a guilt on my mind knowing that nomatter how bad she was or is ..I wasn't there for her.

[Glow wings]

You need to, first of all; pray! This is the very best help you can get. No one knows, but God Himself, what you are going through or your circumstances behind it. There are drug rehabs you can take her to, as well. But if you do, please, find one that is christian- based.Very few are going to feel your pain- and when it's all said and done, you still have to deal with it on your own. This is why God is the"only"answer, if you'truly'want help.Been here done that! Prayers for you>>>>

[Stormy S]

Cut her off completely until she gets clean. Stop giving her money, shelter etc. You are only enabling her addictions.