[Liz k]

We have been together a year now. In April he hit bottom. He was going through severe withdrawl from opiates and asked me to help him along with his family. We found a doctor who specializes in the suboxone detox. My bf started the suboxone but started using again. This has happened at least on 10 occasions where he has me take him to the doc. and doesn't follow through. Also the dr is prescribing xanax which he is abusing as well via his script and what he gets from his friends. He currently is living with a dealer as well. I'm at my wits end, I love him but I don't know what else to do anymore. When he is semi sober which is rare he is a sweet guy. These drugs make him cold though and cause a serious rift between us do to his behavior while on them. We were supposed to move in together but I am scared because I have children and don't want them to see this. I feel bad because I don't know if leaving him is abandoning him (although it feels he has me). What do I say to him if I do?

[babygirl0777]

Whatever you do, DO NOT move in with him! I went through the same thing. My live-in boyfriend of 7 years was addicted to cocaine. It gradually turned into crack. He went to rehab twice, but he would always go back to the drugs. He's been on them now for 7 years. I know you love him, but you have got to think about yourself and your children. This is no way for anyone to live. Leaving him is not abandoning him. Staying with him is enabling him. You say he hit rock bottom, but obviously he hasn't because he is still using. Please do not bring your kids into this. They do not deserve it. I know it's hard, but you can do it. I did, and I have 2 children with my ex. That was 3 years ago. I'm doing fine and he's still doing drugs.

[Gina S]

Don't you think you are also becoming like him? you are becoming addicted of helping him and he is abusing your help. Of course, my advice is for you to get out from the relationship. You can still help him but not necessarily stay with the relationship, much more live with him. Why stress out yourself when you already have your children to think about? C'mon girl, if you care for them, think about them first before your boyfriend who does not value your help and care. Im sure you love him, but try to see things in perspective.