[spunkysauza]

Love the man I married. We were fine for the first couple of years, then we got pregnant, had a baby, and got a large inheritance. He used it to get hooked on Oxycontin (he had previously been an opiate addict, been to rehab 6 times before we met, didn't use it when we were together until he got hooked). He went to rehab in April, spent his 30th birthday there, and he has relapsed about 7 times since then. He says he's trying, but I have to drug test him each week and he denies everything until I have perfect proof. I love him, we have a daughter, I don't want to give up on him. Anyone else been married to an addict? Is it worth staying? Do they change? Can they?

[timetopopnow]

No- they don't change. Get your kid out before it's too late.

[one_revelation]

i think only you know that. if you're unsure maybe you should seperate for awhile and tell him you won't come back to him until he's clean. sometimes that works if he loves you more than the drug, and if he doesn't - well then there you go. he's not worth it. he won't be there in the future for you daughter anyways.

[dropped_skittles]

yes they can change but u need to start focusing on yourself and why u are with an addict start taking some codependents classes i suggest alanon get yourself a sponser

[Carlos]

Let me tell you marijuana is not a drug.... is a plant we love ........... but when ur married and have a daughter and you still doing drugs..... leave the guy get a lawyer or a doctor you will live much happier i promise you

[huntingtonsunburn]

how could you even afford a computer? with his drug problem?

[knowssignlanguage]

Maybe show him why he should want to change sometimes they need a little push show him your daughter and say do you really want her to see her daddy as a druggy? If you love him then do not give up on him he may be really trying. But he does need to stop i would not allow him to have anymoney whatsoever until you are sure he can handle it. I know this may make him mad but you have to do what you need to and make sure he really wants to change if he does not then he wont. Maybe do an intervention on him. He just may need a reason why to change he may not see the reason quite yet.i hope this helps you.