How do I help get my son off of methadone and other drugs?

Helpless mom

My som will be 34 in 2 weeks, he's AA&NA. Has been through a few halfway homes, divorced with 2 children, one of which is adopted. The mother has a mild case of MS, which she doesn't really take care of. She also loves to drink, and knows how to push everyone's button. Leaves the children alone a lot. No one will take oin my som anymore. He weill steal your car, any money that is in the house, will deal drugs from the house or on the job. My present husband and I have paid lawyers. I refuse to take his in. He has overdosed twice. Once in the hospital while on a heart monitor, and 2 weeks ago by mixing methadone and heroin, and probably other drugs. Do I just stand by while he kills himself? He hasn't returned to work, and will be evicted soon. Any ideas? Thanks! He was abused as a child, is very handsome but insecure. He's a liar also.

ndmac · 12-25-2008, 07:34 AM

Yes.

kingajs2010 · 12-31-2008, 02:52 PM

get him some help

devil_queen_biatch14 · 02-22-2009, 05:10 PM

oh wow liars are hard to deal with but dont get sucked in with all his lies, a druggy n a liar make a lethal combo. u may have to cut all ties with him let him hit bottom or kill himself off u cant save someone who doesnt want to be saved. and u cant go down with them. if he wont get help then cut all ties off from him. its hard but u got to

Giatoronto · 03-31-2009, 12:25 AM

may i suggest the tv show intervention? its on a&e. Go to there website and request some kind of intervention.

Lrn'dTheHardWay · 04-06-2009, 08:16 PM

The most important thing here...is that your son is an addict....For whatever reason....He is an ADDICT...You are not dealing with him.....You are dealing with the drugs......If you have tried everything you know to do....then you have to let him go....You cant get him off anything.....Dont let him come to your home...Tell him if he is going to kill himself that you will not watch nor be a part of it. It is his choice to get better or not. Sounds like you have done all you can to help. If you take him in...then you are enabling (helping) him to continue on the path he keeps choosing to run. It is very sad.....I feel for your family.....Good Luck...Has your family ever gotten any professional counseling concerning him&his addictions???? It could really help you!

tracemiss · 06-13-2009, 07:10 PM

you know its really sad when some one gets addicted to drugs and most ofter they never stop he can go to his meetings and every thing but in less he wants to stop for him self he never will its sad his kids will never know the real him the best i can think of is talk to him and tell him he is going to miss his children's whole lives and sorry to say it probably wont work because once some one is gone think that they need something meaningful to happen to help them stop

Kim B · 06-15-2009, 08:44 PM

Drugs are usually used as an escape from reality, counseling my play a key part, due to his past, also you may want to check him into a clinic. I know you hope that at some point your child will grow out of this phase, but not all kids do so you have to take control of their lives because they are out of control. Have you considered an intervention?