[Drew B]

My sons mother wants to let her see him but i don't believe it is a good idea.... She is always high and sometimes turns violent. My sons mother thinks I don't want her to see him because I'm angry at her. That's not the case. I want my son to be in a safe place at all times and i don't think that she is safe to be around. Thanks for your help.

[Invisigoth]

no it's not alright and I don't understand why your son's mother would think it would be alright. She can show the woman pictures of the kid but if grandma is a drug addict then your kid doesn't need to be exposed to that.

[Loves the Ponies]

It is not okay for children to be exposed to drug/alcohol abuse at any time. She doesn't deserve to see the kids and she doesn't have a right to see them, either. Imagine the trauma the kids could face if she goes off on them or even in front of them! Imagine what she could possibly say that would harm them. If she tends to be violent, she could hurt them....do you want that to happen? Parents main job is to protect the children. Exposing them to a drug addict would be harmful and potentially dangerous to them. If the grandmother wants to see the kids, she needs to check into and successfully complete a drug rehab program. Tough love. End of story.

[barthebear]

You are right to protect your son. Now you have the power to while he is little but when he is 15 if he is used to seeing her, she may have power over him and introduce him to drugs. The red flag is your sons mother. He needs to wake up. Be firm and keep the son away from her at ALL costs

[LeeA]

The only way she should see him is in a controlled place which has a person to monitor her. Child Protective Services set up these kinds of"visits."

[Sophie x_x]

i understand why you wouldn't want her to see him however, i have this problem in my family, my uncle is a meth user and his mother is debating letting him see his daughter.at the end f the day it is a not just a habit but for them it is a way of life, as hard as it may seem try to understand. maybe try a supervised visit and see were it goes from there, this might even make her realize what she is doing and encourage her to stop.

[catdogcatdog]

You didn't mention your son's age, but if he is old enough to think that the reason he doesn't see his grandmother is the fact you are angry at her, I think he deserves to know a watered-down version of the truth."Some people make very bad choices, even our family, whom we love very much. As a mom, it's my job to protect you, and grandma has some problems she needs to take care of and get help for, before we can be around her. It makes me sad, but that's life sometimes."I think your son needs to realize that life isn't perfect and people do have problems. If he's old enough, you might want to talk about drugs to him.Isn't it sad, the things we have to tell our children about so early anymore?

[littlelady2340]

Your child's safety and well-being is of paramount concern.No, l would not expose him to a grandmother who may not be lucid, never mind possibly violent, because this cannot benefit him in any way and might actually generate fear and bad memories.If the child's mother loves her own mother, the best thing she could do for her is to write her a note explaining why she won't let her visit.Addicts need to suffer consequences to give them incentive to stop using, otherwise why stop? This is a perfect opportunity to let grandma know that she is harming herself and her famjly. Eventually it might help her get interested in recovery.

[sondra]

your son is your number one priority and if you feel that he would not be safe around her then don't allow it. The final decision is yours to make.