Done drugs and parents don't know? -
12-18-2008, 09:38 PM
In the last year I have been experimenting with drugs such as ecstasy ketamine and cannabis. I am a 19 year old girl with very strict cultural chinese parents who would most probably disown me if they knew. I have taken ecstasy on many occasions since I tried it last year in the summer. To all those who have never tried drugs and have bashed them, ecstasy has made me lose my depression, I am alot happier in life and I am doing really well in college. On my own accord I have decided to quit doing drugs for good, I am not addicted but enjoyed doing them. My problem now is that the guilt is driving me insane, I know it's probably best to not tell my parents but I don't know what to do. i'd like to hear about other people who have experimented with drugs and their personal experiences in terms of how they have felt about hiding things from their parents. Desperately needed advice. Please help
Ask yourself this question: What good would it do to tell your parents?I am sure that your parents did things they did not let their own parents in on. This is part of human nature. Let the past be the past and get on with your life without drugs.
I have done lots of drugs and still do from time to time. I never told my dad, but he knew and if he said something like"u high"I would not deny it. I feel like why open a can of worms. Wait until your older and have a bond when you have accomplished all in life and you having dinner with your parents one day, bring it up as an after thought or a memory. You would be accomplished in your life by then and it wouldnt matter because the drugs did not hold you back. I am 33 with 2 kids. The only thing I do do now is E. But when I was your age I did everything and I mean everything. My mom died when I was 15, but now me and my dad look back on it and laugh when I thought I was hiding the fact that I was high at the dinner table or that I was in an accident because I was high. If it aint broke dont fix it, keep your mouth shut.
i wouldnt tell them, it would break their hearts and like you said they would disown you because they are very strict, if you feel guilty then tell them, but only if you dont live with them anymore. also, your 19 they cant control you anymore. why would you tell them? there wouldnt be anything to gain from telling them, nothing at all.
If you feel like you should tell them because you feel guilty, then don't. The saying is cliche but what they don't know cannot hurt them. Your guilt is something you need to address within yourself. Usually guilt is a sign that you have done something to go against your own morals. It does not make sense to tell them something that they do not know that would cause them pain or anguish.I used a lot of ecstasy when I was younger and did a research paper on it in high school. I always thought that all of the studies were ridiculous because I did not have any of the negative effects that they talked about. I look at it a little differently now. I have not used ecstasy in five years and it seems like the residual effects are taking a toll on me now. I tend to be much more depressed and have some memory trouble that I really believe is a result of my ecstasy use.I commend you on your decision to stop using drugs! Do some soul searching to discover how you can release the guilt within yourself!
Let me think.Hmmmmm.... It's not longer a problem, but you want your parents to worry, get angry&disown you.Wait, the answer is here somewhere. Your strict Chinese parents are probaly estatic their little girl is doing well in college. You feel guilty that they are this happy.Your sense of reality is strained because NORMAL Chinese mom's are supposed to be giant balls of stress, while Chinese Dads are supposed to be giant balls of anger.You fear the shame of friends finding out your parents are happy.Got it.The drugs have affected your normally clever asian mind more than you realize. If it's not a problem, don't ask your parents to solve it.Now go meet a nice educated boy.
I look at non addictive drug use like masturbation, it's really not bad for you, alot of people are doing, you don't want your parents to know you're doing it, and even if they assume you're doing it they don't want to know.
Done drugs and parents don't know? -
12-18-2008, 09:38 PM
