[-|-Trista-|-]

he says he will go to meetings but then never goes. he even wrote on paper that i take care of his money, credit cards and that i go with him to gas up his truck and that he was going to go to a meeting on June 7Th but had an excuse for not going. he even lies to me about where he is going and when he gets his expense checks so he will have money. love him and don't want to give up on him like everyone else has done.

[Elessandro C]

Unforunately right now, it looks like he needs some tough love. What you are doing now is enabling him. You have to cut him loose, and take care of yourself. If you don't, he will bring you down with him. He needs to realize that he has not more outs, as long as he has you, he knows you will always be there no matter what. I suggest you let him go.

[CAC]

First and the most important ...he needs to get into treatment as soon as possible there is no excuse if he really wants to get clean.
then you have to let him go. He needs to help himself before you can help him. Then he may need to go to a half way house for men ...there is a lot of steps ...but they are all necessary to get clean
Good luck to you and I hope he wants to get clean

[CherryCola]

Been there and it's hard to see this happening especially to those you love. You really want to help? Get as much information from drug addiction websites, counselors, groups, friends, etc that you can. You talk to counselors and see if you both can come up with a solution. He can't do this unless he wants to get help. You be his therapy, what I am trying to say is, you do all the leg work, and hopefully you can get a counselor to put him into a program where he has no choice but to with drawl. Educate yourself in order to help him. Good luck.