[candycane]

boyfriend of one year addicted to crack cocaine.

i recently moved in with him, and already its starting to wear me down. he only does it once a week as he doesn't have the money. i dint want to give up on him as there are so many good things about him and we love each other. he doesn't even look like a cocaine addict, he is smart and clean. very intelligent. his family all died one by one and this triggered his cocaine use. he said he has been alone for so long. i want to support him but i feel like i cant start telling him what to do and that he could die. how can i be there for him but yet not let him think that i agree with drugs or that its OK. its so hard but i want to show him I'm not giving up on him.

[confused2471970]

well he obviously started from losing his family and as you said, that hes been alone. well i think its best if you let him know you re there for him and reassure him he has your support. so maybe he wont feel so alone. then i think you need him to agree to maybe like therapy or counseling , they know how to deal with those kinda issues

[ansq]

First of all. Is it Crack Cocaine or just Cocaine because they are two different things.

If its Crack Cocaine then i would recommend that you get him to seek help from a therapist

If its Cocaine then just get him to cut down bit by bit then get him to change it to sniff in paracetamol and then take it down to cal pol and see if that works. OR try ta kin about 4 pro plus tablets to get him "buzz in". If these dint work just go seek help.

[pistol1652]

You know he is a loser, get rid, move out, move on. Addicted to crack because his family all died one by one? As opposed to died all together? By that reasoning everyone whose family had died would be addicts.

[Jacob T]

You are incredibly stupid and naive. Ditch him now because anyone who is a crack addict is a waste of space and he WILL ruin your life.

[IamGulity]

It will tear the both of you down. That can be a 'choice' as far that you can speak of choices when an addiction is involved. I am sorry.

[aditi is]

seriously...you just need to be straight with him. tell him to get his life together or your gone. PERIOD no questions asked. tell him your not against him and you love him..want to help him etc....offer to get him into some treatment. if he declines or doesn't follow Thur with it...then get away before it brings you down too. this is bad!! my mom is a drug addict and if they dint want the help there is not a thing you can do to help them. i can understand you wanting to stick by his side...and i think you should at first. but dint waste too much time CZ it may already be too late.

best of luck to you and please take my advice. you cant wait on someone to change if they have no plans to.

[Makeshift]

He isn't an addict if he does it only once a week. You don't need our help you need to get rid of your boyfriend. He is clearly intending to carry on using crack so there really is no basis for a relationship - he will eventually end up using it more and more.

[Available F]

I think the best way to try and talk to him about it is to tell him how you feel by stating before what you say "I feel" or "My feelings about this is" instead of saying "you need" or " I can't". It won't make him feel as pressured and he will look at you instead of trying to look within himself.

The second step after this is trying to see if he is willing to stop on his own or considering therapy/ seeing a psychiatrist. Also if he is willing to possibly go to rehab for it (which is a last resort because not everyone needs a facility to rehabilitate).

I'm sorry to say, but another thing you can do is threaten to leave. If that doesn't work, I'm don't know what else to tell you dear. You might have to leave him.


I hope he kicks it and I wish you the best.


By the way, don't listen to the others. You know what love is and those other fools just think that leaving him will make it better (leaving has to be your last resort though) but in the end it might make him so much worse and I'm sure that it would cause some serious guilt.

I know because I had a serious problem with alcohol that caused me to do some seriously hurtful things and my fiance forgave me and was by my side to pull through it.

Call his friends and any other family and let them know.

[kent m]

If he doesn't have anyone supporting him, then even if you couldn't take it anymore (and you care for him, which it appears you do) you have to be there for him. How do you know how often he does it? Why aren't you there that one time of the week to stop him? I'm not that much of a cocaine addict expert but once a week doesn't seem like the addiction is that strong. Which would be good news of course. Sounds like your love and devotion would be enough to stop this horrible habit. If not, then he needs to be put into a program where people with experience will be able to help him.