I didn't get much advice on this situation when I last posted it.
For the past 3 or more years my dad has been an alcoholic. I don't even want to go out with my parents because he makes a complete fool of himself and is extremely loud, obnoxious and a total asshole. My mom has told him to stop drinking all of the time and he doesn't ever listen. He never listens to anything I have to say and is always sarcastic to me. He's not even a father to me and my mom wont listen to my feelings about it. I'm a Junior and moving out a semester early in December because I hate it so badly. He is trying to keep me restricted at the house until I'm 18. I just need to get out so badly. He has almost physically abused me, has verbally abused me a lot, and yells at me all of the time. He has done the same to my mom too. I don't believe he can change. The only reason my mom is with him now is because in the past we were not financially stable and well now we are because of him. He came home from a business trip of 3 weeks and when he was there, my mom and i were very happy. Now when my dad came home yesterday everyone is much more mad and I dint even talk to him anymore. I'd like to have a relationship with him if he ever changed but he isn't going to. I also hate the town I live in because every year I've lived here I've been harassed and stalked by girls in school. I've been trying to "stick it out" like everyone says but the situation I feel like is getting worse. My dad has a very bad temper and is going to keep drinking his days away. Since he's been here I've just felt completely sad and restricted, wont come out of my room. I'm almost scared to be around him because he never listens to me and just gets mad at me. Hes always been into drinking alcohol but this has gone over the top for me to handle. I used to be able to deal with it and think that he would stop but he will not and its making me much more sad. Any advice? Thank you so much and sorry this is so long.
Thomas-No shes not, she ignores my feelings about it because shes scared to leave him.
And I'm not just whining about my situation. I've been verbally and mentally abused by my dad. I'm actually trying to get advice about this.
"stick it out" for six months, 12 months or whatever. Patience is a virtue and sign of maturity. You probably just have to put up with this crappy situation for a little while longer and then you can have your freedom. Is you mom doing anything to end the crappy situation she's in?
Go to a children of alcoholic meeting. You won't change him!!! He has to want to change. Sounds like your mom enables him and this is hard probably because this is her husband. She once loved him.. This is not your dad your dad needs help. Try to have some compassion and ask other people who have dealt with this to help ya. Suggest your mom to go to al-anon meeting. Sometimes hard circumstances help the alcoholic to change. It might be a good idea to try to move out when you can unless you feel your mom needs support. Tough question get some outside help!!
@ radon WILL YOU SHUT UP! THIS MUST BE SO HARD FOR HER!
And now for my answer:
There are groups of kids just like you that meet up and talk about their feelings. You aren't the only one. Plus, there are numbers to call of specialists that can try to help your father. Don't listen to people who say you are whiny. This must be tough for you. Just listen to what I said. I am so sorry about your dad.
Alcoholic father? Help? -
04-30-2010, 04:54 AM
