[kaity]

I'm 20 y.o. My father drinks a lot, almost every day a bottle. Because of the AlgolILe fight with every on, he forgets things, sometimes he says things wich make no sense, and he want to control every one's life includind mine. What do you think he's an alcholic? What should I do?PLS advice me

[mari t]

Kill him.

[Snow L]

yes, he's an alcoholic. keep other people around when you are around him. alcoholics become violent because they are usually depressed. get him some therapy and AA.

[chillin_child]

look for a support group like alanine or alcoholics anonymous support for families and they can give u good resources do something for you Cu's it takes alto out of u to live like that *hugs*

[geoguroo7]

the only thing you can realistically do is keep yourself safe and sane.

When he's drunk, leave. Don't engage in conversation--it's useless and it's not going to change.

Find yourself an Al-Anon meeting. This is for people whose lives have been disrupted by alcoholics, and it'll help you deal with the situation. (You'll be amazed by how much it'll help.)

I hope you do this. I know it's hard.

[dappa d]

Sorry to hear of your situation. ALOT to handle at 20 yrs old! Talk to your mom if she's in the picture. If you have a strong family environment, have a family meeting, w/o your dad, and get them involved. Organize an intervention with the rest of the family. Let him know that you and everyone else care, and are worried about him. Let him know that you all love him and want to help!!!
If you don't get support from your family, you could talk to him, but when he is SOBER!!!
Let him know how much you love him and want to help.
Alchohol is an addiction and usually masks deeper issues. He is probably trying to escape some stress he feels he cannot deal with on his own.
Try your family first for support!

[seancool323]

So was mine and also a cop. Don't fight with him, it won't do any good. When he is sober ask him not to drink so much because he is a very 'different person' that's not much fun. See if you can record him without his knowing and play it back at the right time, not to piss him off but to reach reason. It's real tough but work gentle, strong, and above all be smart about it. GOOD LUCK

[ssgvnmlsnlsvml87]

Yes I think he is an alcoholic but it does not matter what I think or anyone else. What should you do take care of yourself don't let him drag you into his disease. You cannot do anything for him until he admits he has a problem and ask you for help, any help you try and give him before that he will reject and tell you he does not have a drinking problem. I would suggest you find an alanine meeting, they are meetings for children and spouses of alcoholics, you will learn a lot about the disease and how to cope with loving an alcoholic.

[catalyst]

Are you a Christian ?
if possible, pals consult with a pastor. They have experience with family case like yours.
My suggestion, pals pray for your father. It would take a humble heart to ask God for His mercy.

[Kathy C]

Tell him to stop or all of you will leave him to rot.